Overview
On the Sunday afternoon just before your Essentials weekend finished, you experienced new behaviour. To begin the experience, you stood up and embodied a pattern, taking on its posture and body shape. While still embodying the pattern you returned to your seat and looked at all the other participants, noticing how you felt towards them, how you felt about yourself, and what the interaction with the others was like. The experience may well have been one of disconnection or more….
You then stood up, shook the pattern off and then, with your eyes closed, you visualised your Spiritual Self, the unprogrammed part of you, with your face, in front of you, which you breathed in and embodied, allowing it to affect your posture.
Maintaining the feeling of connection to your Spiritual Self, you returned to your seat again and made eye contact with the others, noticing how felt in yourself and towards the others, and the sense of connection and openness you likely felt, reinforcing your intention to be connected to, and act from this unprogrammed part of you as often as possible.
To take this experience another step:
- Identify a pattern that you want an alternative to, an appropriate response. A pattern that you’ve expressed on (Expression on patterns) , and about which you’ve had a dialogue with the parent you learned it from (Dialogue with a Parent’s Child)
- Close your eyes and then, in your mind’s eye, remember and then re-live a recent situation in which you were acting out the learned negative pattern. Allow your body to embody the pattern take on its shape, notice how your body feels and how you feel towards yourself.
- Then shake it off.
- Keeping your eyes closed, see your Spiritual Self standing in front of you. Breathe it in and embody it. Notice how you feel.
- Now, in your mind’s eye, imagine yourself re-experiencing the original situation with the new feeling. Notice how you’re feeling and behaving, and what you’re thinking, differently.
Make a note of the differences on a list with 3 columns. Write the pattern in the first, who you learned it from in the second, and your New Behaviour – how you felt and behaved, and what you were thinking, differently – in the third.
This is the beginning of being able to respond appropriately to situations instead of reacting with the pattern. To make it your new normal way of behaviour needs repetition – firstly, through acting it out in life and, secondly, through visualising yourself acting it out. At the end of the day, remember one or two occasions when you went into the pattern, then visualise yourself responding appropriately to the situation as you embody your Spiritual Self.
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