Growing up as the third in a line of four children in West Sussex, our early years were turbulent. Our mother, the family’s lighthouse, battled breast cancer, her illness casting a shadow over our family. Her strength in fighting her sickness was a testament to her unyielding spirit. However, her eventual passing shortly after my ninth birthday marked a turning point in my life, extinguishing the guiding light I’d always relied upon.
The upheaval continued as we moved to West London with our father and his new partner. Our home, doubling as an office for his celebrity agency business, was a constant whirlwind of activity, emotions, and a showbiz lifestyle that often left me and my siblings feeling like we were in the way. This environment, coupled with the emotional void and frequent confrontations, led me to take on the role of peacekeeper at a young age, walking on eggshells and internalising my struggles.
My school years mirrored the chaos at home. I found myself neither here nor there, a middle kid trying to avoid trouble yet involuntarily attracting it. The lack of peace and understanding drove me into survival mode, leading to brushes with rough crowds and a pattern of seeking solace in external validations and high-risk behaviours.
The various careers that followed were a kaleidoscope of experiences, from barman and trainee chef to volunteer work overseas and promoting VIP London night clubs. Caught in an unsustainable lifestyle, I realised I needed to make a change. Transitioning into the music industry, I hoped to find a path aligned with my passions. Unfortunately, this only exacerbated the issues I was trying to escape. It was a disillusioning experience, forcing me to confront my desires and reassess my priorities.
It took me a while to find my footing, after which I sought stability and spent five years in the structured world of IT recruitment and then fully immersing myself in acting, it was a passion, an escape into different personas, a refuge from myself.
After a few years of grappling with the financial instability of an acting career and the emotional turmoil from a challenging relationship, my confidence began to crumble. The roles became harder to perform, not for lack of skill, but because the character I’d built to protect myself was fracturing, making it increasingly difficult to slip into other characters with the conviction I once had.
The turning point came with a breakdown in 2015, highlighting the war I was waging against myself. This propelled me into the world of personal development, attending seminars, workshops, and courses in search of wholeness. In 2016 I attended an Unleash the Power Within event hosted by coach and motivational speaker Tony Robbins and 18 months later I discovered my true calling. I transitioned into an international speaker, representing Tony Robbins under Success Resources, motivating others by recounting my journey and insights.
A new chapter began in 2019 after a speaking engagement in Cyprus, a country that offered a peaceful respite from my internal turmoil. Embracing this serendipity, I relocated without reservation, finding in that decision a sense of belonging I hadn’t known before.
This led to an unexpected encounter with Julia, my future wife, in Limassol. It was if we had known each other many lifetimes and had just bumped into each other again. Julia had done the Hoffman Process a few years earlier, in 2013, alongside exploring numerous other spiritual practices. We became an anchor and a guide for each other as we sailed through the tumultuous waters of our burgeoning relationship. I stepped into the role of a bonus dad for her two sons, a beautiful yet intricate adjustment. Amid the global chaos of the Covid pandemic, we navigated the emotional complexities of reshaping family dynamics alongside launching new entrepreneurial ventures. These experiences fostered a partnership rooted in mutual growth, understanding and love. The world outside was chaotic, and in a decisive move, we took the first flight out of Cyprus to Dubai as soon as the 2020 lockdown lifted, driven by a mutual inner calling.
However, once we were in Dubai, with the New Earth Cafe we’d created just blooming and a ‘Self Love’ store in its nascent stages, a crisis emerged – we separated from our business partners and two individuals departed from key roles in our shared business in quick succession. This forced me to confront an uncomfortable truth: I was the common denominator in this sequence of events. It dawned on me that the chaos wasn’t solely external; it mirrored a tumult deep within me. My ingrained patterns of lacking boundaries and a desire to please others had left me vulnerable, an easy target for emotional manipulation. It was a gruelling acknowledgement, understanding that the approval I had sought tirelessly, especially from figures such as my father, had led to a painful inner dissonance and self-neglect.
These experiences were stepping stones, leading me to the transformative power of the Hoffman Process, which I undertook in 2022. This wasn’t just another course but an excavation of the self. I delved into my childhood, confronting realities I’d long suppressed, and began the painstaking work of piecing myself back together. The subsequent journey through the Process was nothing short of revelatory, enabling me to understand my patterns, and embrace a path of healing and unconditional love.
On my return home, this new-found awareness was a catalyst for the most honest conversation of my life with Julia, where I bared the depths of my soul, fears, and shame, only to be met with acceptance and love. It shattered any preconceived notions of what I’d experienced love to be, leading to a transformation that went beyond my expectations. Shortly after this breakthrough with Julia, I flew to Rome alone. It was a step I had to take for myself to mend family ties with my father. Meeting him after we hadn’t spoken for a year – the longest we’d ever been apart – was emotional in ways I hadn’t anticipated.
During that time I’d gained a new perspective and saw myself walking in the same shoes as my father. This was a wake-up call; I was on the brink of losing everything, just as he had. Sitting with him then, I felt like I was giving back all the tangled vines that had bound us. But this time, they were untangled, and it was a gesture of unconditional love. It wasn’t about absolving the past but acknowledging that we could move forward.
Today, the life that Julia and I have created in Dubai is a testament to the miracles of authenticity, love, and vision. Our entrepreneurial ventures, the New Earth Cafe and Self Love Store, are more than businesses; they embody our commitment to fostering conscious, heart-centred communities. These projects, born from our shared vision, serve as platforms for others to embark on their own journeys of self-discovery and healing.
From the ashes of my past, a new life has emerged. It’s a life where the love I once desperately sought is now the love I extend to myself and share with others. Though this journey is deeply personal, it underlines a universal truth: If we don’t go within, we go without! As we journey through the layers of self-discovery, we must remember that our Higher Self resides just beyond the veil of our illusions, waiting to be embraced and understood.
To my dearest Julia, my incredible boys, and everyone in our New Earth family: your support and love fuel my journey, and our collective quest for peace and love on Earth.
I wish to dedicate this work to the memory and honour of Bob Hoffman, whose insights and dedication have illuminated many paths.
May we all strive for a world where understanding, peace, and love are not just ideals, but the foundations of our existence.
In Love & Honour Alex Roseman
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