Self-forgiveness and self-compassion

Self-forgiveness and self-compassion

Overview We covered these three essential components of self-compassion on the Essentials weekend (ref: Kristin Neff). Mindfulness – acknowledge that you have patterns, behaviors, and negative beliefs about yourself. Be mindful not to either exaggerate them, which can lead to self-pity, nor suppress them - instead simply observe them, without judgment. Common humanity – be [...]
Expression on patterns

Expression on patterns

Overview A key outcome of cathartic release work, focused expression, is the creation of a boundary between you and the pattern. It separates you from the negative aspects of the mother and father of your childhood (from whom you learned the patterns), which now only live inside you. It enables you to be calmer, so [...]
Inner Critic

Inner Critic

Overview Your Inner Critic, most simply put, uses all of your patterns, negative beliefs you have about yourself, and all of the negative voices that you heard throughout childhood - from parents, and surrogates. Your Inner Critic is the internalised negative voice that says things like: ‘It was a great weekend course. but what difference [...]
Transference

Transference

Overview Transference is reacting to others the way we learned to react to our parents. We’re usually not aware when we go into Transference and automatically react out of our patterns. When we’re triggered into transference, we see the person through the lens of our own childhood, and leap into making assumptions about them (their [...]
Left Road, Right Road

Left Road, Right Road

We introduced this on the Saturday morning of the Essentials course, and referred to it a number of times over the weekend. Overview We all make many choices every day. Some seem like small choices (‘shall I have a second cup of coffee?’) and some are a lot bigger (‘should I apply for that promotion?’) [...]